Here are examples of respectful and firm responses for teachers to maintain boundaries:

With Students

1. When a student interrupts during instruction:

• Respectful Response: “I appreciate your enthusiasm, but I need everyone to wait until I’m finished explaining. Then I’ll answer questions.”
• Firm Response: “Let’s save comments for after instructions so we can stay on track. Please hold your questions for now.”

2. When a student wants extra help outside of designated times:

• Respectful Response: “I’m glad you’re seeking help! Let’s plan for tomorrow during office hours.”
• Firm Response: “I’m only available during office hours. Please come by then, and we’ll work through it.”

3. When a student tests classroom rules:

• Respectful Response: “Our rule is to raise hands before speaking so everyone has a chance to contribute. Please follow that.”
• Firm Response: “This behaviour isn’t acceptable in our class. Let’s make sure we follow the rules moving forward.”

With Parents

1. When a parent contacts you outside work hours:

• Respectful Response: “Thank you for reaching out. I’ll get back to you during my working hours tomorrow.”
• Firm Response: “I only handle school matters during work hours. I’ll respond when I’m back in the classroom.”

2. When a parent challenges a grade decision:

• Respectful Response: “I understand your concern. The grade reflects the criteria outlined in the rubric, which I’d be happy to review with you.”
• Firm Response: “Grades are based on the outlined criteria. I’d be happy to discuss how your child can improve moving forward.”

3. When a parent requests special treatment for their child:

• Respectful Response: “I strive to ensure fairness for all students, so I need to apply the same rules for everyone.”
• Firm Response: “I’m unable to make exceptions, as it would compromise fairness for other students.”

With Colleagues

1. When a colleague asks for extra help you can’t provide:

• Respectful Response: “I’d love to assist, but my current workload doesn’t allow it. Let me know if there’s another way I can support you.”
• Firm Response: “I can’t take on additional tasks right now. Please check with someone else.”

2. When a colleague contacts you after hours:

• Respectful Response: “I saw your message. I’ll respond in detail tomorrow during work hours.”
• Firm Response: “I don’t handle work matters after hours. Let’s connect tomorrow.”

3. When a colleague tries to delegate a task that isn’t yours:

• Respectful Response: “That sounds important, but it’s outside my responsibilities. Have you checked with (appropriate person)?
• Firm Response: “This isn’t within my role. Please follow up with the right department.”

General Tips for All Scenarios

• Always pair your response with a solution or alternative when possible.
• Use polite yet clear language to ensure your boundaries are respected.
• Avoid over-apologising or justifying your position excessively; be confident in your decisions.